ByIt's Your World

Dec 28, 2022

Forget Gratitude: How I Learned to Love Me & Reject the Messed Up Stuff Haters Told Me

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Dear reviewer,
I welcome your review of my book, Forget Gratitude.

What’s all the fuss about gratitude? Suppose your life is complicated by stress, bills, or online trolls who prosper by making your life miserable? Readers are searching for ways to build confidence, a personality trait that begins with self-love and self-acceptance. This book, Forget Gratitude, shows the path to preserving mental health and wellbeing.

Forty percent of Americans report struggling with anxiety. They are anxious because of pressure to meet other people’s expectations. Consequently, negative thinking cripples them. This book shows people how to shut down self-doubt and depressing thoughts. It illustrates how accepting and loving oneself increases confidence and peace of mind. Bonus: readers will learn to resist bullies and online negativity.

This nonfiction book takes The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson or Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins to another level. Forget Gratitude helps people break loose from other folk’s expectations and let go of their fear of missing out. Stop chasing gratitude and embrace your true feelings.

The book is 132 pages; 16k words. The indie imprint is Baby Buddha Books; pseudonym for Xolani Kacela, Ph.D.

Thanks so much for your consideration.

  • Listing ID: 12443
  • Author's Name: Xolani Kacela
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  • About the Author: Xolani “xk” Kacela, Ph.D. writes from a place of gratitude. He is the co-author of Finding Your Way. He has authored several other books, including The Black UU Survival Guide, Finding Your Way Home, Get A Hold of Yourself, and It’s Your World. He has published numerous articles on faith, theology, and other contemporary subjects.

    He serves as a Unitarian Universalist Association minister based in San Jose, CA. Before that, he served UU congregations in Dallas, TX; Durham, NC; and Las Cruces, NM. He has worked as a hospice chaplain.

    He is the wing chaplain for the New Mexico Air National Guard, in Albuquerque, NM. He served with the District of Columbia National Guard at Joint Base Andrews and worked at U.S. Special Operations Command at MacDill Air Force Base in Tampa, FL. He began his military career with the Texas Air National Guard in Ft. Worth, TX. He has deployed four times, including service during Operation Iraqi Freedom.

    Kacela has four earned degrees, including a doctorate in pastoral theology and pastoral counseling from Texas Christian University. He lives with his wife, Tamara, in San Jose, CA.
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  • Genre: Non-fiction
  • Titles of All Books: F*CK Gratitude
    Finding Your Way
    Finding Your Way Home
    Where's My Refund From Amazon
    Get A Hold Of Yourself
    It's Your World
  • 1. Did you love reading books when you were little? Why or why not?: Yes. It was a natural draw for me.
  • 2. At what age did you start reading books? What were your best memories of that time?: 4 years old
    I remember having a lot of books around and access to all of them.
  • 3. What was the first book you loved reading? Why?: The Fishes in my encyclopedia.
    It had great pictures.
  • 4. When did you first think about writing your first book? Why?: 2014 - Encouragement from my friends.
  • 5. What was the greatest obstacle you've encountered when you were writing your book? What made you overcome it?: Finding the time.
    I made a scheduled writing time and stuck to it.
  • 6. What pieces of advice can you give aspiring authors? What worked for you?: Write on a schedule. Just get your words on paper. Don't worry about being perfect.
  • 7. Who are the authors or what are the books that had the greatest influence in your own writing? Why?: M.Scott Peck
  • 8. What are your current or future writing plans? What can readers further expect from you?: I'm finishing up a novel. It is a romance.
  • Awards, reviews, press releases, and other relevant information: None.
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By It's Your World

I'm a person of faith and a Unitarian minister. I write about how faith permeates our lives.